The idea that I could look at someone across the room and think “oh they’re just right for me” and they’ve done nothing for me. What an insult to a marriage of fifty years where people look back and go “look at what this person has done for me”. That’s what makes them special. It’s how much they’ve invested in me. What we’ve built together. The idea of love at first sight is an insult to long term relationships where people actually built something through effort and hardwork. That to me is what’s romantic: when people stick around for each other, when people look after each other, and when they’re a genuine team. What’s romantic is when someone builds a relationship. I have a massive belief that an amazing relationship is built, not found.
— Matthew Hussey (addressing the idea of “love at first sight”)